WHAT IS ABUSE?
There are many different forms of abuse - domestic violence, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, childhood abuse and financial abuse are among the most common types.
When a person realises that they are, or have been, in an abusive relationship they will often feel that their life is out of control, begin to blame themselves, they may feel ashamed or guilty about the abuse or they may even think that no-one will believe that this is, or has, happened to them.
They may want to find a way of preventing the abuse from happening again or understand why their relationship ended up being abusive.
They may just want someone to talk to about the abuse who wont judge what they're saying and who will believe them.
If the abuse took place when the individual was a child then it can be difficult for them to come to terms with what happened and it may lead to them doubting whether or not it actually happened or whether they have imagined it.
HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP WITH ABUSE?
WHAT COUNSELLING CAN HELP WITH
When working with someone who has been abused I believe that the most important thing is to build a trusting relationship where that person feels safe to explore their relationship(s).
Once this trust has been established I will be able to work with the individual to help them to make sense of the abuse and the impact it has had, or is having, on their life.
There will sometimes be a history of abusive relationships and Counselling can help the individual to understand the pattern of abuse and ultimately make the necessary changes to move away from abusive relationships.